I don't know if it is plagiarism to describe my favorite Far Side comic; it completely describes my life. I know we cannot post any of the comics (Gary Larsen has full rights and approves no posting, so I have read); but to describe it, well maybe that's a different kettle of fish. Here goes. (Bear with me, oh friends that have heard me go on about it before.)
.....Picture a flock of geese walking south for the winter. They are in perfect formation, with the leading goose being the lookout, staving off the headwinds that may make it difficult to make progress through the fields and across the roads as they make their way south. The leading guy looks up and sees another flock flying overhead. Caption reads simply: "Say, look what they're doing."
The story of my life, always looking at what other people are doing. Choices we make. Hmmm, sometimes we play the mental game of wishing. "Wish I could do that." or "Wouldn't it be cool to (fill blank in with your own desires)." That comic completely describes my way of living. I have lived my life as a watcher not a doer, one that secretly resents all of the contestants on any reality or game show. All I thought of was how much more I could use the money. I mean come on, really!! You really want to win a million bucks to pay for a wedding? Psht! I have better uses for it.
So, learning is difficult, and sometimes we travel the pathway around the mountain more than once before our reality sinks in. We really can control what we do, or how we handle a situation.
Here's an example: I have always wanted to be a writer. Never mind that I have never finished a story; never mind that I couldn't see an end to my own plots. But, we started a writers group with my favorite people in the world, and it reaffirmed my ability to write. So, okay, I can do this. Then I joined a writing class where we pick a topic and write, usually something personal, reflections on our lives in relation to a spring day, or a tree from our past. Nothing fake. Then my sister says I need to start a blog. Well, okay, but who would be interested? Doesn't matter. It's writing that matters. Here is what I gain by writing: I see what I want, instead of think about it. Seeing something is one step closer to reality. Putting things down on paper is one way to set goals. Pretty soon the pathway is there.